Fearful-Avoidant Attachment Style
You want closeness and fear it at the same time. Getting close both pulls you in and scares you, so relationships can feel like a rollercoaster: “come here, go away.”
Strengths
- Emotional depth
- Sensitivity to insincerity
- A strong need for real closeness
Area for growth
Notice the "I want to run away" moment and say it out loud. Working with a psychologist is especially helpful with this style.
In friendship and when single
In friendship: You sometimes get close very quickly, then pull away sharply when things get too close. Learn more
If you're not in a relationship: You want a relationship, but on the first dates the urge to run kicks in. Learn more
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FAQ
How can I tell if I have the fearful-avoidant attachment style?
You want closeness and fear it at the same time. Getting close both pulls you in and scares you, so relationships can feel like a rollercoaster: “come here, go away.”
Can an attachment style change?
Yes. Attachment style can change with experience of secure relationships, as well as through work with a therapist.Notice the "I want to run away" moment and say it out loud. Working with a psychologist is especially helpful with this style.
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